It’s the most wonderful time of the year (bet you’ve got the tune in your head now haven’t you?) It’s also the busiest, even for a stay at homer like me! Busy for me means something quite different than it used to mind you. Pre accident in 2012, I had a full time job, rehearsals or band practice 2 or 3 evenings a week, shopping etc etc. Now, I have to plan everything meticulously, making sure I don’t ‘overdo’ it and find myself paying the price for 2 or 3 days afterwards. So, if I want to bake a cake one day, then I need to make sure that’s the only thing I do. The things I love to do can still be done (to a certain extent, there are limitations due to my mobility issues)
I’m extremely grateful to everyone who has, and still do support me in this, because there was a time I didn’t think I would ever be able to have a ‘normal’ life. And it took me a long time to accept that I can…..it’s just a different ‘normal’
It’s been a long journey, over 5 years now, to getting my ‘mojo’ back. I’ve talked to the appropriate people, listened to them, and finally understood that my emotional recovery was just as important as my physical health. More so in fact, because I can’t do anything about the physical side of things except ‘pain management’, but my mind is my own.
My family still love me unconditionally (and my little dog Charlie) and don’t think I’m a burden on them…….that was all in my head, not theirs.
Realising that, with the right gadgets, I can still bake and be creative, and that people like them!
Discovering that the Pantomime Society and Theatre Group I’ve been part of for so many years still value my input, and have been amazingly supportive.
All of these things have helped my emotional recovery, and shown me who and what really matters.
So, as this year comes to an end, if you find yourself in a similar situation, please don’t give up. It takes time. You’ll be frightened, angry, grief stricken even. But after that comes acceptance of who you are now. You’ll eventually see that you are still valued. You can still do things. It’s just ….. different! In the meantime, accept all the help that’s offered. There are lots of support groups out there, when you’re ready, and they really do help. But your family and friends are there now. Try not to shut them out, don’t be too proud to admit you need their support. They care about you ❤
I’d like to wish all my family and friends a very happy Christmas, and a fantastic 2018. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
I think I should change the title of this post now! I didn’t start it intending to focus so much on my personal life, I was just going to post a picture of the Cinderella cake I made for the kids Panto Christmas party, and say a few words about my year, but it just sort of happened!
Anyway, here are a couple of pictures of the aforementioned cake!
I have one more cake to make for Christmas, Rudolph inspired no less!
Until next time
Stay safe and healthy
Debbie ❤
Products used in this cake:
Renshaws premium coverpaste
Wilton blue food colouring
Rainbow dust hologram white lustre
Baking for Therapy 
Is there a whole doll in there?
A big thumb is up to you (or, as has been said a thumb’s down in Roman terms – which is a little strange). Anyway, here’s to you and your positive outlook. Keep on, Bay King, keep on!
Graeme:)
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Haha, no it’s a doll ‘pick’. Top half doll, lower half skewer. Looks kind of creepy before you stick it in the cake! I had to dress her in fondant to match the cake. She’s all cleaned up and naked again now. I’ve wrapped her in bubble wrap to preserve her modesty!
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I thought you might have borrowed one from James – G;)
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